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E.L. Zeitgeist's avatar

Such a thought provoking exercise, Latham. Your monument collection here is as aspirational as it is humbling. And I love the paradoxical nature of these two ideals: live with iron-clad integrity, and also live as gauze blowing in the wind... you’re always invited to change when life shows you the way.

On that latter note: This line struck all the chords for me, “Writing truthfully means seeing the world as an outsider. Living truthfully means having the courage not to fit in.” If I were to pick one wound that refuses to heal, it’s this one in a landslide. This week, I’ve been particularly consumed and heart broken by it. Clearly I needed the Jungian synchronicity of reading your piece today. My spirit guides took note and sent me this message. Being an outsider isn’t a cross to bear or a flaw to fix. It’s a blessing to celebrate. I’m so grateful for the reminder. Thanks Latham!

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Joshua Doležal's avatar

Appreciate this list, Latham. As someone who has, in the space of maybe 5-8 years, had my core identity upended more than once, I sympathize with your monument metaphor. I'm increasingly aware of how I can only write such a list after major disruptions. Most of the big upheavals we can't see coming. And many of those forces scoff at whatever lists we've made. I always enjoyed teaching American naturalism -- Jack London, Stephen Crane, Ambrose Bierce. The upshot of that literary movement is that we're little more than a fleck of bran in the cosmic muffin.

On your subject of a good death, it's interesting to note that Tolstoy's Ivan Ilyich would have thought, until his terminal illness, that he had his monument scripted perfectly. What a powerful tale about how to avoid living the wrong life. It's counterpart might be Willa Cather's "Neighbour Rosicky," a story about a Czech farmer in Nebraska. I know of no other story that describes a good death better. And one thing I appreciate about it is that we understand that Rosicky's death isn't purely about his own serenity -- it's about how he shares that serenity with others, how dying well in fact requires him to turn away from himself toward his family.

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